Article by: CR James (Author of SuperSeductionPower.com)
Aricle Source: http://ezinearticles.com/?3-Ways-a-Guy-Can-Turn-a-Female-Friend-Into-a-Girlfriend&id=1792293
They say the best relationships start out as being friends. Often times, when you are with someone for long periods of time, it's only natural that you start to have feelings for the other person.
Has friendship with a female friend turned into feelings of love and you want nothing more than for your relationship to be more than just friends?
The following 4 tips should provide you with helpful strategies.
Tip #1: Stop doing things like a girl (her female friend) and start acting like a desirable guy
It's that simple.
There is a distinct difference between a friend and a boyfriend. Your object is to schmooze your way into her life so stop acting like a friend and do things as a boyfriend would.
For instance: if she doesn't have a date for a special event, ask to accompany her. Also, stop over-analyzing how she may react in situations.
Be bold.
Become more confident. Some guys get confused about how to go about this because there are do many approaches out there.
As a result, there's a lot of confusion about what "being confident" means.
Confidence is all about being comfortable with yourself, because no one has the ability to stop you from "deeply accepting" who you are.
Tip #2 Become more manly
Don't make the mistake that some men make by taking the place of her other female friends.
Always act like a man. Even if you are helping her pick out clothes, you want to do it in a way that indicates you are giving her a man's point of view.
Tip #3 Don't make silly seduction mistakes
Your goal is to build desire. She has to WANT YOU on all levels.
Without the perception that you are "sexy" and "desirable", you can't get her to want you and you won't be able to seduce her. When a woman really wants you, there's a certain look in her eyes.
Sexual Relationship Strategist, CR James is the author of Super Seduction Power: http://superseductionpower.com/sspbook
Thursday, July 2, 2009
Thursday, July 3, 2008
Tips for Ending a Bad Date
There are few things worse socially than finding yourself on a bad date. You've been excited about the event since the date was agreed, and suddenly you find that all the preparation and anticipation was for nothing. Of course you will be able to dissect what went wrong with your friends later, and perhaps even laugh about it, but first of all you've got to get the date over with. If you ever find yourself in this situation, here are a few tips for you to remember:
1. As soon as you realize that the date's not working, you need to get out of there. If this is a date with someone you've never dated previously have a friend organized to call you on your cell phone about 30 minutes into the date. This way if first impressions are that this date is a mistake, you can excuse yourself on the grounds of some kind of "emergency" announced by the telephone call.
2. Keep the date light. Don't give away any information that's personal if you don't think that this is someone you will date again. Keep your answers as generic as possible and avoid giving out contact information.
3. Don't send out mixed signals. Just because you think this is a bad date, don't assume that the person you're dating feels the same way. Make sure that you don't give your date any reason to assume that you'll be happy to fix another date with them.
4. When you finally manage to finish the date, look for absolute closure on it. Don't tell them you had a great time if you didn't. Don't let them hold your hand. Don't kiss them – even a peck on the cheek – if you have no intentions of dating them again. All of these things send out a signal that you are interested. Instead, smile and thank them for the date, then leave! The longer you stand there feeling awkward and guilty because you didn't have as great a time as they seem to have had, the more awkward the situation is going to get. Be very confident and sure of what you're doing – you're simply saying thank you and goodnight. That's it. Once you've done that, leave before they have a chance to start pressuring you into promising another date!
5. Go home and relax! Don't over analyze the date. Don't get stressed about the fact you didn't have a good time. It was an experience; perhaps not an experience you'd like to repeat, but an experience nevertheless. What you learned from it was that sometimes the people who seem like a good match aren't and the next time you fix up a date you'll be make sure that you have more in common with the person you're going to go out with.
Bad dates happen. Sometimes there's no reason for it other than the fact that you don't have as much in common with your date as you originally thought. If it happens to you, get out of it as fast as possible and move on –don't let it cast a shadow on more of your life than the brief time you actually spent on the date!
~Kimee
Wednesday, October 31, 2007
Are You Dating a Jealous Person?
Promise to be honest. :)
Finding a person that you want to date, and then having them want to date you is a wonderful thing. Unfortunately that can soon turn sour if you suddenly find that you are dating someone who is jealous of anyone else in your life, and who creates a fuss if you want to spend time with anyone but them.
A jealous partner isn't just jealous of other people who are attracted to you. They may see this as the biggest threat to your relationship because they don't trust that you won't go out with this other person once you realize that there's an attraction there. But it doesn't end there.
A jealous partner is going to stop you from meeting with people (or even pursuing activities) that doesn't include them. This can even be with members of your family! They won't like it if you tell them that you're spending a weekend at your grandparent's home, they won't like it if you say you're going to hiking for a weekend with some ex college buddies, and if you’ve been invited to party but they haven't - they will expect in this particular situation that you either get them invited, or you don't go!
The problem with dating a jealous person is that they often don't see the problem. They probably think that they are doing what's normal. They will include you in everything that they do - even family gatherings - and while most of this will be because they want to spend time with you, if they have a jealous nature, then there will also be part of this which is because they know if you're with them, you're not with anyone else. Even though you know you’re not interested in anyone else, this constant mistrust of other people in your life is going to make you feel smothered, and also as if it’s you that your partner doesn’t trust.
Jealous partners destroy relationships. No-one wants to account for every minute of every day to someone who is supposed to trust them. If you suspect that your partner is of this nature, you have two choices.
You can either end the relationship. Or you can work on it, realize that most jealousy has a cause - perhaps an ex partner of your partner cheated on them, perhaps one of their parents cheated on the other - locate the cause and see if you can stop your partner from making you pay for someone else's mistake. If you can't, you are either going to have to accept a life of constant scrutiny with your partner controlling who you can and can't see - or find yourself a partner who will let your relationship grow on a foundation of trust.
Kimee Luv
The 4 Reasons Why Good Girls Cheat:
http://www.scribd.com/doc/14206/The-4-Reasons-Why-Good-Girls-Cheat
Finding a person that you want to date, and then having them want to date you is a wonderful thing. Unfortunately that can soon turn sour if you suddenly find that you are dating someone who is jealous of anyone else in your life, and who creates a fuss if you want to spend time with anyone but them.
A jealous partner isn't just jealous of other people who are attracted to you. They may see this as the biggest threat to your relationship because they don't trust that you won't go out with this other person once you realize that there's an attraction there. But it doesn't end there.
A jealous partner is going to stop you from meeting with people (or even pursuing activities) that doesn't include them. This can even be with members of your family! They won't like it if you tell them that you're spending a weekend at your grandparent's home, they won't like it if you say you're going to hiking for a weekend with some ex college buddies, and if you’ve been invited to party but they haven't - they will expect in this particular situation that you either get them invited, or you don't go!
The problem with dating a jealous person is that they often don't see the problem. They probably think that they are doing what's normal. They will include you in everything that they do - even family gatherings - and while most of this will be because they want to spend time with you, if they have a jealous nature, then there will also be part of this which is because they know if you're with them, you're not with anyone else. Even though you know you’re not interested in anyone else, this constant mistrust of other people in your life is going to make you feel smothered, and also as if it’s you that your partner doesn’t trust.
Jealous partners destroy relationships. No-one wants to account for every minute of every day to someone who is supposed to trust them. If you suspect that your partner is of this nature, you have two choices.
You can either end the relationship. Or you can work on it, realize that most jealousy has a cause - perhaps an ex partner of your partner cheated on them, perhaps one of their parents cheated on the other - locate the cause and see if you can stop your partner from making you pay for someone else's mistake. If you can't, you are either going to have to accept a life of constant scrutiny with your partner controlling who you can and can't see - or find yourself a partner who will let your relationship grow on a foundation of trust.
Kimee Luv
The 4 Reasons Why Good Girls Cheat:
http://www.scribd.com/doc/14206/The-4-Reasons-Why-Good-Girls-Cheat
Saturday, August 25, 2007
Dating & F#$king (What went wrong)
This is a relationship nightmare, especially on the first couple of dates when you are still trying to figure out whether or not you even like the person that you’re dating and if they’re as sincere about things as they seem to be.
The general rule seems to be that you should never sleep with a date until at least the third date. There’s no real logic but it does mean that you get a little breathing space before you start feeling that you “should” be having sex! The general consensus is that you should never have sex on a first date because that’s going to get you a reputation for being “easy”!
General consensus and opinions aside, whether or not you have sex on a date – and which date – is only up to one person (well two if you want to include your partner’s opinion on the matter), and that’s you! Only you know whether or not you are comfortable enough with your date to want to jump in bed with him. No-one else really has the right to tell you that it’s too early and it’s not the done thing, or for that matter to pressure you into something that you’re not ready for when you’ve had a dozen dates with your partner and haven’t got past a chaste kiss on the cheek! Only you know when you’re ready to make that physical bond.
The worst situation with dating and sex is when there is an expectation that your date has created. They are clearly anticipating an intimate experience with you during or after the date. If you’re up for it, that’s great. If you’re not, then you need to get this out in the open as soon as possible and give your date a chance to find another bed partner for the night if that’s all they’re looking for.
Don’t feel guilty about saying “no” on this subject to your date. Honesty now is better than getting them angry and feeling that you led them on later in the evening. It’s also better feeling guilty with them than feeling bad about yourself because you caved in to their expectations and did something that you didn’t want to do.
Listen to your mind and your body.
They will tell you when the time is right to take your relationship to the next level. This could very well be within the first couple of dates if the chemistry is right and your intuition is telling you that your date is not just in the relationship for sex.
On the other hand, it could be quite some time – especially if you’ve had a bad experience in the past after sleeping with a date early on in the relationship – before you’re ready. Remember, there’s only one person’s opinion on when sex becomes an option within the relationship, and that’s yours!
Love,
Kimee Luv
PS: I'm working on a NEW book (yaahh!!!), so if you have any relationship questions email me at kimeeluv@gmail.com and I will listen to your story & situation and try to help you... (kiss, kiss)
The general rule seems to be that you should never sleep with a date until at least the third date. There’s no real logic but it does mean that you get a little breathing space before you start feeling that you “should” be having sex! The general consensus is that you should never have sex on a first date because that’s going to get you a reputation for being “easy”!
General consensus and opinions aside, whether or not you have sex on a date – and which date – is only up to one person (well two if you want to include your partner’s opinion on the matter), and that’s you! Only you know whether or not you are comfortable enough with your date to want to jump in bed with him. No-one else really has the right to tell you that it’s too early and it’s not the done thing, or for that matter to pressure you into something that you’re not ready for when you’ve had a dozen dates with your partner and haven’t got past a chaste kiss on the cheek! Only you know when you’re ready to make that physical bond.
The worst situation with dating and sex is when there is an expectation that your date has created. They are clearly anticipating an intimate experience with you during or after the date. If you’re up for it, that’s great. If you’re not, then you need to get this out in the open as soon as possible and give your date a chance to find another bed partner for the night if that’s all they’re looking for.
Don’t feel guilty about saying “no” on this subject to your date. Honesty now is better than getting them angry and feeling that you led them on later in the evening. It’s also better feeling guilty with them than feeling bad about yourself because you caved in to their expectations and did something that you didn’t want to do.
Listen to your mind and your body.
They will tell you when the time is right to take your relationship to the next level. This could very well be within the first couple of dates if the chemistry is right and your intuition is telling you that your date is not just in the relationship for sex.
On the other hand, it could be quite some time – especially if you’ve had a bad experience in the past after sleeping with a date early on in the relationship – before you’re ready. Remember, there’s only one person’s opinion on when sex becomes an option within the relationship, and that’s yours!
Love,
Kimee Luv
PS: I'm working on a NEW book (yaahh!!!), so if you have any relationship questions email me at kimeeluv@gmail.com and I will listen to your story & situation and try to help you... (kiss, kiss)
How We Match with Other People
Finding a partner means that you need to find someone who matches with what you believe to be important. This is something that's very individual. What isn't important for one person is a crucial element of someone else's relationship. So how do you find out what matches are important for you?
The first thing you need to do is to accept that it will be a very rare thing to find someone who is a complete 100% match for you. Without accepting this you can waste a lot of time looking for a "perfect" match instead of the "best" match, so slightly lower your expectations and make sure you know what things you can happily live with compromising about.
We all want to find common ground with the people we are close to. So knowing yourself is part of finding a good match in a partner. What is it that you enjoy doing? What kind of movies/music/books do you enjoy? What strong opinions do you have? It isn't important that your potential partner likes all of the same things that you do, but you are more likely to be attracted to people who have some overlap with your interests.
There's a school of thought that says that opposites attract. This isn't always a good idea however, especially if you have nothing whatsoever in common with the person you're dating. Matching with other people means that you have some similar beliefs, opinions and interests – especially about things that are important to you. If your religion is important to you for example, then while you may not need to have a partner who is of the same religion, you do need a partner who respects your beliefs.
If you are very sporty then you need a partner who at least shows a willingness to share your enthusiasm about your activities if not your experiences!
The best way to find people who match what is important to you is to find groups of people who follow the same kind of interests.
Internet dating is another way of finding a supply of potential dating partners who match with your important criteria. Here you'll even be able to place a number of pre-requisite attributes and have the website search system locate the best matches for your ideal date.
The best way to match with someone is to know yourself. Start off with finding where your priorities in life are, and where you want to go, and then use this as a basis for learning what kind of person your ideal match will be. It may not be possible to find exactly what you're hoping for, especially if you have a number of very specific personality/lifestyle wishes, but if you prioritize what are your most important factors, then you'll at least know where you're prepared to compromise.
~Kimee
The first thing you need to do is to accept that it will be a very rare thing to find someone who is a complete 100% match for you. Without accepting this you can waste a lot of time looking for a "perfect" match instead of the "best" match, so slightly lower your expectations and make sure you know what things you can happily live with compromising about.
We all want to find common ground with the people we are close to. So knowing yourself is part of finding a good match in a partner. What is it that you enjoy doing? What kind of movies/music/books do you enjoy? What strong opinions do you have? It isn't important that your potential partner likes all of the same things that you do, but you are more likely to be attracted to people who have some overlap with your interests.
There's a school of thought that says that opposites attract. This isn't always a good idea however, especially if you have nothing whatsoever in common with the person you're dating. Matching with other people means that you have some similar beliefs, opinions and interests – especially about things that are important to you. If your religion is important to you for example, then while you may not need to have a partner who is of the same religion, you do need a partner who respects your beliefs.
If you are very sporty then you need a partner who at least shows a willingness to share your enthusiasm about your activities if not your experiences!
The best way to find people who match what is important to you is to find groups of people who follow the same kind of interests.
Internet dating is another way of finding a supply of potential dating partners who match with your important criteria. Here you'll even be able to place a number of pre-requisite attributes and have the website search system locate the best matches for your ideal date.
The best way to match with someone is to know yourself. Start off with finding where your priorities in life are, and where you want to go, and then use this as a basis for learning what kind of person your ideal match will be. It may not be possible to find exactly what you're hoping for, especially if you have a number of very specific personality/lifestyle wishes, but if you prioritize what are your most important factors, then you'll at least know where you're prepared to compromise.
~Kimee
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